Netzavim
There in a shul, or a crowded street,
A Jewish stranger on a plane, who you happen to meet.
The paradigm of chessed, who is so rare
The woman who is ambivalent, and doesn't seem to care.
The rav who paskens shailos, and knows Mishna Berura cold,
The bitter man or woman, in a nursing home frail and old...
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This weeks parsha speaks of all the "Jews standing today".
And when one thinks of all Jews, there is but one thing to say.
We may think we do, but we know not who is on what level, in H-shem's eyes.
Whether it be someone beloved, or (chalila) someone despised.
We know not who in shamayim is stationed where; the "sinner" or the person who is kind.
We who possess limited knowledge, and are of mortal minds.
We all are sparks of kedusha, G-dly souls.
Each different than the other, each with separate roles.
So show respect to all. For the person you think is of lowest degree,
Perhaps possesses greatness, which you and I can't see.
This means we are more able to love those who are course, and unrefined
And to imagine them righteous, and to their shortcomings be blind
As we remind ourselves daily over and over, 'his or her worth I cannot know.'
We're going through life non-judgmental, and we can spiritually grow.
As we take this idea in and we judge others it will mean
We will iy"h stop being so self-judgmental. How great that is for our self-esteem.
Isn't that a wonderful thing, that we know who is on what level, in H-shem's eyes.
Isn't it comforting that anyone's worth in shamayim is not ours to realize...
That our job is to show each and everyone love,
And to leave the judgments to The One Above.
Thursday, August 22, 2013
Why Be Cynical??
Ki Savo
"He imports and exports, and is 'rolling in dough.'
"Don't ask me how, but I know.
"He made a fortune, in real-estate.
"It is an understatement to say, he is doing great."
There are a lot of people in the Jewish community, who work hard and make lots of money.
It is no shame to be rich. Seriously..I am not being funny!
And many, though far from rich, but b"h bli ayin hara live in a "comfort zone".
And they have things of value, which they can call their own.
While some struggle less, some much much more, for their devotion there is so much to say.
For they thank H-shem with a full heart, for what little they have, every single day.
Some are cynical, and chas veshalom look down, at those with wealth.
Stop! Cynicism is bad for your mental, and physical health.
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In the "beracha" in this weeks parsha, it speaks of if we as a people, are dedicated to learning.
There will be more prosperity, and more money we will be earning.
And b"h bli ayin hara isn't that true?
It seems like a new yeshiva, is opening up every day.
An Art Scroll on that days daf yomi everywhere you look. What more is there to say?
Ba'alei teshuva bli ayin hara, everywhere you go, learning strong.
Every year on Shavuos, more people shteiging all night long.
Torah is valued today ...
And there are more millionaires in the Orthodox community ...
Based on this weeks parsha that's a sign of a wonderful thing.
It's a sign we as a nation value Torah more. What nachas to the Aibeshter we bring!
Why makes jokes? Why speak with ill will?
A concept in the "beracha" in our generation is being fulfilled!
So higher and higher levels of learning, may we as a people attain.
And thus may we speedily greet Mashiach tzidkeinu, bimhaira beyameinu amain!
"He imports and exports, and is 'rolling in dough.'
"Don't ask me how, but I know.
"He made a fortune, in real-estate.
"It is an understatement to say, he is doing great."
There are a lot of people in the Jewish community, who work hard and make lots of money.
It is no shame to be rich. Seriously..I am not being funny!
And many, though far from rich, but b"h bli ayin hara live in a "comfort zone".
And they have things of value, which they can call their own.
While some struggle less, some much much more, for their devotion there is so much to say.
For they thank H-shem with a full heart, for what little they have, every single day.
Some are cynical, and chas veshalom look down, at those with wealth.
Stop! Cynicism is bad for your mental, and physical health.
___________________________________________________________
In the "beracha" in this weeks parsha, it speaks of if we as a people, are dedicated to learning.
There will be more prosperity, and more money we will be earning.
And b"h bli ayin hara isn't that true?
It seems like a new yeshiva, is opening up every day.
An Art Scroll on that days daf yomi everywhere you look. What more is there to say?
Ba'alei teshuva bli ayin hara, everywhere you go, learning strong.
Every year on Shavuos, more people shteiging all night long.
Torah is valued today ...
And there are more millionaires in the Orthodox community ...
Based on this weeks parsha that's a sign of a wonderful thing.
It's a sign we as a nation value Torah more. What nachas to the Aibeshter we bring!
Why makes jokes? Why speak with ill will?
A concept in the "beracha" in our generation is being fulfilled!
So higher and higher levels of learning, may we as a people attain.
And thus may we speedily greet Mashiach tzidkeinu, bimhaira beyameinu amain!
There Are Tests. And There Are Tests!
Ki Seitzei
We are told that it's not so hard, to chase a bird away from its young.
Flick your hand, the mother flies away, and it's done.
It's called an easy mitzva, a relatively effortless thing.
And we know not how much schar, that it brings.
But is it really easy?
You have to speak to a dayan, well versed and well taught.
From Monsey, Flatbush, or perhaps New Square he must be brought.
On the other hand. Come to think of it. It isn't hard....
You simply go and ask a rav, who studies and knows.
He supervises as you chase the mother away, and away she goes.
This parsha lists sending away a mother bird, and how Miriam spoke lashon hara against her brother.
Let us compare, one to the other:
A rav guides you, as you chase away a bird from it's young.
It is really a unique mitzva, perhaps it will be written up in a Jewish publication. Besides it's fun.
Lashon hara often (though not always)is straightforward. Certain things you cannot hear, certain things you mustn't say.
But to rigorously observe shmiras halashon, for most of us takes a Herculean effort every day!
Baking matza according to halacha, building a sukkah, correctly dealing with halachos of kashrus of any kind.
True it takes knowledge, but learning halacha is enjoyment, and just involves the mind.
On the other hand things like withholding taking revenge, not saying lashon hara, not hating in your heart ...
Now that takes real effort! Where do we start?
When it comes to lashon hara, say when someone harmed you badly did you wrong,
It takes an amazing effort. It is hard to stay strong!
Yes if you somehow persevere and control yourself when someone gives you grief,
Know ... one-hundred percent ... without a doubt ... you'll recieve schar beyond belief!
We are told that it's not so hard, to chase a bird away from its young.
Flick your hand, the mother flies away, and it's done.
It's called an easy mitzva, a relatively effortless thing.
And we know not how much schar, that it brings.
But is it really easy?
You have to speak to a dayan, well versed and well taught.
From Monsey, Flatbush, or perhaps New Square he must be brought.
On the other hand. Come to think of it. It isn't hard....
You simply go and ask a rav, who studies and knows.
He supervises as you chase the mother away, and away she goes.
This parsha lists sending away a mother bird, and how Miriam spoke lashon hara against her brother.
Let us compare, one to the other:
A rav guides you, as you chase away a bird from it's young.
It is really a unique mitzva, perhaps it will be written up in a Jewish publication. Besides it's fun.
Lashon hara often (though not always)is straightforward. Certain things you cannot hear, certain things you mustn't say.
But to rigorously observe shmiras halashon, for most of us takes a Herculean effort every day!
Baking matza according to halacha, building a sukkah, correctly dealing with halachos of kashrus of any kind.
True it takes knowledge, but learning halacha is enjoyment, and just involves the mind.
On the other hand things like withholding taking revenge, not saying lashon hara, not hating in your heart ...
Now that takes real effort! Where do we start?
When it comes to lashon hara, say when someone harmed you badly did you wrong,
It takes an amazing effort. It is hard to stay strong!
Yes if you somehow persevere and control yourself when someone gives you grief,
Know ... one-hundred percent ... without a doubt ... you'll recieve schar beyond belief!
Minority..Majority...Unity!!
Shoftim
Life is full of times, when there are different points of view.
The opinions of the majority, The opinions of the few
Most say New Balance shoes are a better value, and that they will last longer.
Better fit, more stylish, built stronger.
A majority think that Honda, is the best car out there.
Take a walk around Boro Park; You'll see them everywhere.
As far as New Balance and Honda most agree.
But Chevrolets and Rockports, are something you'll still see.
But even though there is a majority, the minority still remains.
Some people still like Rockports and Chevrolets, still the same.
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But lehavdil it was different by the Sanhedrim, i.e. the judges of yesteryear.
Once their decision was pronounced, it was as if the minority "disappeared".
We read of the Shoftim, who were to be proclaimed.
Once a decision was made, they became one and the same.
Let's say twenty-two judges said "let us fight";forty-nine said we should not fight this war.
Once the Sanhedrin paskened not to fight, the minority opinion existed no more.
Only one viewpoint existed, only one opinion.
There was now only one way, of seeing the inyan.
Then after that, and all was said and done,
The Jews would act in unity, together as one.
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Wouldn't it be great, if today we had a Sanhedrin as we did years ago.
We would act as one unit; Such achdus we would know!
For today there is not one decision, from a Sanhedrin for us to see.
So inevitably with one another, we sometimes disagree.
But as enemies of the State of Israel, form in every direction.
If we engage in respectful dialogue, we receive H-shem's protection.
Yes, when we respect others, and what they have to say,
Our enemies one and all, will be child's play!
Life is full of times, when there are different points of view.
The opinions of the majority, The opinions of the few
Most say New Balance shoes are a better value, and that they will last longer.
Better fit, more stylish, built stronger.
A majority think that Honda, is the best car out there.
Take a walk around Boro Park; You'll see them everywhere.
As far as New Balance and Honda most agree.
But Chevrolets and Rockports, are something you'll still see.
But even though there is a majority, the minority still remains.
Some people still like Rockports and Chevrolets, still the same.
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But lehavdil it was different by the Sanhedrim, i.e. the judges of yesteryear.
Once their decision was pronounced, it was as if the minority "disappeared".
We read of the Shoftim, who were to be proclaimed.
Once a decision was made, they became one and the same.
Let's say twenty-two judges said "let us fight";forty-nine said we should not fight this war.
Once the Sanhedrin paskened not to fight, the minority opinion existed no more.
Only one viewpoint existed, only one opinion.
There was now only one way, of seeing the inyan.
Then after that, and all was said and done,
The Jews would act in unity, together as one.
______________________________________
Wouldn't it be great, if today we had a Sanhedrin as we did years ago.
We would act as one unit; Such achdus we would know!
For today there is not one decision, from a Sanhedrin for us to see.
So inevitably with one another, we sometimes disagree.
But as enemies of the State of Israel, form in every direction.
If we engage in respectful dialogue, we receive H-shem's protection.
Yes, when we respect others, and what they have to say,
Our enemies one and all, will be child's play!
Tuesday, June 25, 2013
Nothing to Fear
Reah
Once there was a lady, of Hollywood fame.
It matters not her films. It matters not her name.
As she was about to die she stated...
"I know what lies ahead, and what is in store.
"You die. You are gone. No afterlife. No more.
Despite all your disagreements, and persistence,
"I am sure I will disapear, be devoid of all existance.
This week we read of the nation of Amorim, who tore their hair because they believed,
Chilling death is absolutley totally final. Tragically that is is what they perceived.
Of course our viewpoint is radically different. The wisdom of sages we draw upon.
We are told the body dies. But the soul lives on.
Ah the soul!
Pure spirit, existing for now and all time.
Quality so holy, a nature so sublime.
Most Americans, for what it is worth,
Believe there is an afterlife, beyond this earth.
By the way, scientists are confident there is an afterlife, beyond any reasonable shadow of a doubt.
It is something in the news we soon will be hearing about.
So let's enjoy this world of challenges that is clear.
But don't worry. This world is not our "final stop" so there is nothing to fear
Once there was a lady, of Hollywood fame.
It matters not her films. It matters not her name.
As she was about to die she stated...
"I know what lies ahead, and what is in store.
"You die. You are gone. No afterlife. No more.
Despite all your disagreements, and persistence,
"I am sure I will disapear, be devoid of all existance.
This week we read of the nation of Amorim, who tore their hair because they believed,
Chilling death is absolutley totally final. Tragically that is is what they perceived.
Of course our viewpoint is radically different. The wisdom of sages we draw upon.
We are told the body dies. But the soul lives on.
Ah the soul!
Pure spirit, existing for now and all time.
Quality so holy, a nature so sublime.
Most Americans, for what it is worth,
Believe there is an afterlife, beyond this earth.
By the way, scientists are confident there is an afterlife, beyond any reasonable shadow of a doubt.
It is something in the news we soon will be hearing about.
So let's enjoy this world of challenges that is clear.
But don't worry. This world is not our "final stop" so there is nothing to fear
New Girl
Eikev
Being the new girl in a school, can evoke feelings so strong.
'I am afraid I will mess up. What might go wrong?
'Will I be able to handle, limudei kodesh and chol?
'In this new school, what will be my role?
'Will the other girls like me? Will I be accepted by the rest?
'How will I do? will I live up to the test?
'Like most schools, I heard the girls here are nice.
'Or perhaps for being the "new girl" I will pay the price.'
"New girl" the day before, is up all night.
Tossing and turning, in apprehension and fright.
All the students say things like...
"Oh...Hi. How are you? What is your name?"
"New girl" is now kinda glad, to a new town she came.
However they are nice, but only to a degree.
Welcoming her yes. But they are not quite as kind as they can be.
But a girl named Rachel, goes far beyond the other girls.
And affectionately welcomes "new girl" into her world.
Rachel says, "New girl" don't you worry about a thing.
Into my circle of friends you I will gladly bring.
"And 'new girl' don't worry. If you need help with Chumash or any other subject they teach.
"Text me or phone me. I won't be out of reach."
Rachel is super nice, and they talk for a while.
"New girl" by now feels wonderful, and begins to smile.
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We are taught in this parsha to love converts, as a matter of fact, anyone new.
Which not only includes converts, but also Jews.
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So just like Rachel, who said to "new girl", "By all means feel free to call me on the phone."
The new family in your shul, welcome into your home.
Or the new senior, in your adult care living,
Be welcoming warm, loving, and giving.
The concept of welcoming in, and being warm and kind:
A message from our Torah, a message so sublime
Being the new girl in a school, can evoke feelings so strong.
'I am afraid I will mess up. What might go wrong?
'Will I be able to handle, limudei kodesh and chol?
'In this new school, what will be my role?
'Will the other girls like me? Will I be accepted by the rest?
'How will I do? will I live up to the test?
'Like most schools, I heard the girls here are nice.
'Or perhaps for being the "new girl" I will pay the price.'
"New girl" the day before, is up all night.
Tossing and turning, in apprehension and fright.
All the students say things like...
"Oh...Hi. How are you? What is your name?"
"New girl" is now kinda glad, to a new town she came.
However they are nice, but only to a degree.
Welcoming her yes. But they are not quite as kind as they can be.
But a girl named Rachel, goes far beyond the other girls.
And affectionately welcomes "new girl" into her world.
Rachel says, "New girl" don't you worry about a thing.
Into my circle of friends you I will gladly bring.
"And 'new girl' don't worry. If you need help with Chumash or any other subject they teach.
"Text me or phone me. I won't be out of reach."
Rachel is super nice, and they talk for a while.
"New girl" by now feels wonderful, and begins to smile.
_________________________________________
We are taught in this parsha to love converts, as a matter of fact, anyone new.
Which not only includes converts, but also Jews.
________________________________________________
So just like Rachel, who said to "new girl", "By all means feel free to call me on the phone."
The new family in your shul, welcome into your home.
Or the new senior, in your adult care living,
Be welcoming warm, loving, and giving.
The concept of welcoming in, and being warm and kind:
A message from our Torah, a message so sublime
Got a Minute? Let Me Tell You of the One Above
Vaeschanan
If someone loves their chasan, or friend,
They cannot seem, to stop praising them.
A kallah (or friend) might say, "He is such a great guy.
"Do you have a few minutes? I'll tell you why.
"He is funny, with a heart that is authentic and real.
"And a love for the unfortunate, he truly feels.
"He is so calm. He has his anger under control.
"And in his his shul, he takes an active role."
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This weeks parsha says, that to the One Above,
We are to have a passionate fiery love.
How to do this? Well for starters, we can speak of His Greatness when we pray.
More than this - similar to the kallah - their are things to others we can say.
Like speaking to to the not yet religious, how His Torah is so true,
And speaking about all the exhilarating mitzvos we do.
Tell him how H-shem's mitzvos, make our lives a sheer joy.
Like a young child, playing with a favorite toy.
Love H-shem by speaking to others, of His delicious fruits and birds.
Whose delightful songs, at dawn can be heard.
I guess to you my reader, I am trying to relate.
Is fulfill the mitzvah of loving H-shem, by conveying to others He is Great.
By doing this, two mitzos, at once you are able to do.
Loving H-shem, and loving a fellow Jew.
So be brave...
Approach that friend at work, when you are by the proverbial water cooler,
Of this Benevolent, Awesome, and Generous Ruler!
If someone loves their chasan, or friend,
They cannot seem, to stop praising them.
A kallah (or friend) might say, "He is such a great guy.
"Do you have a few minutes? I'll tell you why.
"He is funny, with a heart that is authentic and real.
"And a love for the unfortunate, he truly feels.
"He is so calm. He has his anger under control.
"And in his his shul, he takes an active role."
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This weeks parsha says, that to the One Above,
We are to have a passionate fiery love.
How to do this? Well for starters, we can speak of His Greatness when we pray.
More than this - similar to the kallah - their are things to others we can say.
Like speaking to to the not yet religious, how His Torah is so true,
And speaking about all the exhilarating mitzvos we do.
Tell him how H-shem's mitzvos, make our lives a sheer joy.
Like a young child, playing with a favorite toy.
Love H-shem by speaking to others, of His delicious fruits and birds.
Whose delightful songs, at dawn can be heard.
I guess to you my reader, I am trying to relate.
Is fulfill the mitzvah of loving H-shem, by conveying to others He is Great.
By doing this, two mitzos, at once you are able to do.
Loving H-shem, and loving a fellow Jew.
So be brave...
Approach that friend at work, when you are by the proverbial water cooler,
Of this Benevolent, Awesome, and Generous Ruler!
Kinas Sofrim: When Yes When No
Devarim
In Parshas Devorim, which we read this week,
It mentions coveting; and of coveting Torah scholars I will speak.
First things first: If Reuven is upset that Shimon knows more,
Well to wish others know less? That is not what coveting Torah scholars, (kinas sofrim) is for.
If no jealousy exists, and Shimon's diligence to Reuven is a motivating force,
Well that is healthy, and positive of course.
Let's say Reuven is jealous, But that Shimon knows a lot makes Reuven happy, deep in his heart,
That is what kinas sofrim is, and that is a good place to start.
However kinas sofrim, is good but not ideal.
It is a concept aimed at those who already, jealousy they feel.
For instance, instead of being jealous, that your neighbor has nicer clothes,
At least be jealous of something important, like the Torah that he knows.
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But there is a higher level, a level so sublime.
Where Reuven feels no jealousy, and with Shimon knowing more he is just fine.
I try very hard," Reuven says. "I learn on my own level
"It is in in my own efforts and accomplishments, in which I revel.
"I am a separate entity from Shimon. Shimon a separate entity from me.
I feel no jealousy, and that is the way it ought to be."
To not compare yourself to others, and to feel no jealousy is great.
Try harder in your learning, but at your own rate.
In conclusion: No question. Try to avoid coveting others' happiness, honor, or wealth.
It is a good antidote, for your mental and physical health!
In Parshas Devorim, which we read this week,
It mentions coveting; and of coveting Torah scholars I will speak.
First things first: If Reuven is upset that Shimon knows more,
Well to wish others know less? That is not what coveting Torah scholars, (kinas sofrim) is for.
If no jealousy exists, and Shimon's diligence to Reuven is a motivating force,
Well that is healthy, and positive of course.
Let's say Reuven is jealous, But that Shimon knows a lot makes Reuven happy, deep in his heart,
That is what kinas sofrim is, and that is a good place to start.
However kinas sofrim, is good but not ideal.
It is a concept aimed at those who already, jealousy they feel.
For instance, instead of being jealous, that your neighbor has nicer clothes,
At least be jealous of something important, like the Torah that he knows.
________________________________________
But there is a higher level, a level so sublime.
Where Reuven feels no jealousy, and with Shimon knowing more he is just fine.
I try very hard," Reuven says. "I learn on my own level
"It is in in my own efforts and accomplishments, in which I revel.
"I am a separate entity from Shimon. Shimon a separate entity from me.
I feel no jealousy, and that is the way it ought to be."
To not compare yourself to others, and to feel no jealousy is great.
Try harder in your learning, but at your own rate.
In conclusion: No question. Try to avoid coveting others' happiness, honor, or wealth.
It is a good antidote, for your mental and physical health!
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Make Peace Today! Why Delay?
Matos
A sibling, one against the other.
A case of a sister despised, by her brother.
An angry man, who prays at a shul,
And digs at his "friend", with comments so cruel.
A shvigger, or perhaps a shver,
Who is given the message, they are not wanted here.
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Towards the end of Moshe's life Klal Yisroel delayed fighting Midian, and the reason why,
Is that they knew after they defeated Midian, Moshe would die.
Yes they knew it was meant to be, after the war,
Moshe's demise, would be what was in store.
Klal Yisroel tested Moshe, again and again.
Only showing affection, for him in the end.
The error of their ways, eventually became clear.
But to wake up to their mistake, took forty years!
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Just like by Moshe the brother, guy at shul, and son or daughter in law are blind,
To the object of their dislike, who is so caring and kind.
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But finally the brother, well into his adulthood makes peace,
With his sister, and his abuse does cease.
For the son or perhaps daughter in law, it takes way way too much time.
But finally there is warmth, and things are fine.
Man at shul waited many years, for that special day,
To apologize to the guy, who at the same shul he prays.
But to wait so many years to make amends, what was their reason?
Didn't they all know, living bishalom, is always in season?!
Perhaps it is a case, of you not being so nice,
But if so, the other person, is paying the price.
So don't wait for a sign from the cosmos, or some special event.
Or some long awaited message, that's "heaven sent".
Make peace with that family member, friend, or with someone you live.
If you are sincere when you apologize, I'm sure they'll forgive.
A sibling, one against the other.
A case of a sister despised, by her brother.
An angry man, who prays at a shul,
And digs at his "friend", with comments so cruel.
A shvigger, or perhaps a shver,
Who is given the message, they are not wanted here.
________________________________
Towards the end of Moshe's life Klal Yisroel delayed fighting Midian, and the reason why,
Is that they knew after they defeated Midian, Moshe would die.
Yes they knew it was meant to be, after the war,
Moshe's demise, would be what was in store.
Klal Yisroel tested Moshe, again and again.
Only showing affection, for him in the end.
The error of their ways, eventually became clear.
But to wake up to their mistake, took forty years!
_____________________________________________________
Just like by Moshe the brother, guy at shul, and son or daughter in law are blind,
To the object of their dislike, who is so caring and kind.
_____________________________
But finally the brother, well into his adulthood makes peace,
With his sister, and his abuse does cease.
For the son or perhaps daughter in law, it takes way way too much time.
But finally there is warmth, and things are fine.
Man at shul waited many years, for that special day,
To apologize to the guy, who at the same shul he prays.
But to wait so many years to make amends, what was their reason?
Didn't they all know, living bishalom, is always in season?!
Perhaps it is a case, of you not being so nice,
But if so, the other person, is paying the price.
So don't wait for a sign from the cosmos, or some special event.
Or some long awaited message, that's "heaven sent".
Make peace with that family member, friend, or with someone you live.
If you are sincere when you apologize, I'm sure they'll forgive.
Tuesday, June 4, 2013
Every Year Growing and Growing. Higher and Higher
Pinchas
Whether it be the Yomim Tovim, of spring summer or fall.
Parshas Pinchas has it all.
Let's begin:
Before the Torah, you're able to receive.
First and foremost, you must believe.
So you speak of Egyptians, who were given plagues and lived in fear.
Now to you that Hashem created the world, it's even more clear.
Now it's Shavuos, and you're ready to recieve the Torah, like your anscestors before.
Who didn't know, what they had in store.
Time flies! It's Rosh Hashana, and you're ready to proclaim H-shem as the king of kings.
What a sense of awe that brings!
Now that you have proclaimed H-shem, as awesome and strong.
You are ready to atone, for the sins you have done wrong.
Comes Yom Kippur and as strange as it may seem.
By sincerely saying you're sorry, it wipes your slate clean.
After you have been forgiven, what can be more joyous than this?
So you are now ready to shake Arba Minim, and sit in a Succah in bliss.
On Succos, for all nationalities you pray.
But next comes for you and all Jews, an exclusive holiday.
Yes then comes, the happiest day of all.
Which always takes place, in the fall.
Unlike Shavuos, which is like you've recieved a package, and know not what's inside.
Now your "curiosity", is no longer denied.
On Simchas Torah, it's as if once more you've learned the Torah, in all its beauty and glory.
Every precious mitzva, and poignant story.
You have finished the yearly cycle and with H-shem's Will.
You have grown as a person, and next year you'll grow higher still.
But for some it's hard to grow. The Yomim Tovim are here and then they're gone.
'Where did I miss out? Where did I go wrong?'
True I refrained from doing melachos and enjoyed the Yun Tif meals.
But the Yun Tif's special messages, I just didn't feel.
Growth doesn't come easy. It may take effort on one's part.
A shiur or trip to a Jewish bookstore, is a good place to start.
Song and prayer with fervor, can penetrate the soul.
But dear friend it may take time, so keep focused on your goal.
I wish to all you readers, as in the joy of Yomim Tovim you revel.
Each year you grow, to an even higher level!
Could it Be??
Balak
A man is driving down the street, and there on the rigtht.
A not so unusual sight.
A treif Red Lobster restaurant, offering food he has never known, never tried.
He thinks how it is really no big deal, to be denied.
'No I would never in a million years, eat there it wouldnt be fair...
'To expect to be rewarded for it, "upstairs".
He ponders to himself, as he keeps driving in his car,
'For denying myself a meal at Red Lobster, do I get schar?
'I have absolutely no desire for it, whatsoever.
'To refrain from it, is an effortless endeavor.
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Let me say for the record that even if you don't rob, pillage,eat ham or kill.
Nevertheless, you are rewarded still.
We have free will, to do absolutely everything.
No matter the harm, to our soul it will bring.
For idol worship, say getting a tatoo, or those things you have absolutely no desire to do.
There is still schar bestowed, and waiting for you.
As far as Bilam, it was another story.
He was a rasha, in all its "glory".
In order to make his evil side, more and more strong.
He practically forced himself, to do wrong.
This man who was hired, for the Jewish people to curse.
Did things he had zero desire to do, in order to make himself worse and worse.
The man ponders some more ...'H-shem you can't be that loving and generous, as far as I can see.
He asks someone and is told differently ... Then asks himself 'How could it be?
In a sense of awe and gratitude, at the same time.
The man thinks 'H-shem is unfathomably, gracious and kind!'
Then he thinks 'It's not logical, it's beyond fair.
'That is way to much reward for me, more than my share.
'Well if it is true, it must be true.
Then he thinks..'This is great! I get immense reward, for every single solitary thing I don't do!
'HaKadosh Baruch Hu is amazing. I am rewarded for not eating at Red Lobster, though the logic I can't see!
'H-shem is that loving and wonderful. As far as how it is, it sure beats me.'
Why Should I Fear a Pawn?
Korach
Moshe's modesty was greater than all men
We are told and reminded of this, again and again.
But though he was a leader for a great nation, a most prestigious role
Moshe's modesty surpassed, the loftiest of souls.
So let's ponder ... What is modesty? What does it mean?
Low self-confidence? Low self-esteem?
A modest person probably feels, he has great worth
For he was created in G-d's image, from the day of his birth.
That every talent, is not something he owns
But an item borrowed, a gift on loan.
He doesn't feel like a big shot; more like one of the crowd
He might repeat this over, say it out loud.
He doesn't want fanfare, or applause
A simple man, working for a positive cause.
But one thing is certain. One thing is clear.
Being modest has absolutely nothing, to do with having fear.
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Moshe was faced with a giant, of enormous might
Og Melech Habashan, he had to fight.
Og was this awesome giant, and many men in Moshe's situation
Might view this "human beast", with trepidation.
BUT NOT MOSHE RABBEINU!
Moshe was fearless, confident and calm
Ready and willing, to take this giant on.
So it seems, the lesson is clear
A modest man, has only H-shem to fear.
They bravely think ... Why should I get nervous and fear mere mortal men?
They are only pawns in the hands of H-shem!
Monday, May 20, 2013
May You Have a Life With Little Worries
Shelach
I seem to have this discussion every Purim. A guy who has had a little too much (or perhaps too little after all it is Purim) invariably disagrees with me. I have come to the conclusion that there is a percentage of people – albeit a very small one - who have a life without problems. As people are sampling from trays of delicious stuffed cabage and brown rice and divrei Torah are flying fast and furious, a soft voice declares:
"Chaim you are wrong. No, EVERY ONE has problems."
This person (though I am only giving what might be examples of what a person says) tells me of things like his debts, or a child of his who he and his wife are very concerned about for whatever reason, a sister who is quite older and not yet married... I ask this person if life is worth all the strife. It may take a minute, maybe two, but invariably he agrees it is.
Even when it isn't Purim, if a friend or acquaintance is sincere, I tell them of what I would like to have better in my life. Upon the the conclusion to my list of woes there always seems to be the same reaction:
"Don't think you are the only one. Everyone has problems."
In the history of our galus things change and of course the types of problems change but one thing remains the same. Life always has had its share of hardships and difficulties – or so all the people I speak to would tell me.
For the most part there was an exception to this rule, the Dor Hamidbar. They did not really have problems when you analyze. Think of it. There were clouds all around them. Food literally fell from the sky. No enemies could hurt them. There was no death. There was a miraculous cloud below. No one even got a blister. Laundry? Forget it; no need to bother with it.
Living in Eretz Yisroel in the days of Yehoshua, however, would come with it day to day challenges, to say the least. There would be crops that may or may not grow, hostile neighbors who would hate them, cold, heat. 'No thanks,' the Dor Hamidbar said. So the Dor Hamidbar, which tested Moshe again and again were taken aback by a life of challenges and problems? 'No more life on "easy street?' Thanks but no thanks. We will pass.
What they were doing was running from the life they were expected to have. To conquer Eretz Yisroel was their appointed task, what they were supposed to do, their destiny. A life of challenges in Eretz Yisroel was their calling.
Let’s ponder our various lives with problems: Like those with a child who acts up all to often but from time to time shows an unmistakable sweetnesss; a grandmother advanced in age who you loved going to as a little kid and now cherish each precious moment you have left with her. You the reader at this very moment may have on you mind how to deal with this and this person who is your boss who is making your life difficult. You like your job but you have been told it is important for your emotional health to deal with this boss .A delicate situation. Not fun to be sure. But what is the alternative?
Yomim tovim is stress. Let's be serious; especially Pesach! There are times we want to hang our heads as we are searching behind the refrigerator. But kedushas hechag, the festive meals, extra learning, relaxing of course, seeing loved ones, a sibling child grandchild or great grandchild even, saying the Mah Nishtana as they proudly smile beaming form ear to ear...who could beat it?! And can you beat taking in your fourteen year old asking such mature questions Seder night??
I was once a guest for Succos. It was chilly. The hosts had a terrific time hosting. She remarked how it is always nice to have me and how it is good I always seem to come Succos. we marveled at waterfalls and pondered pictures of succahs from times of the gemarah. The Ushpizin was taught to a beginner who was really intrigued and that made those of us who were knowledgeable of our lofty heritage even more proud and intrigued. We waited for kiddush. There we were, ten people in a tight fitting succah. It was an enjoyable Yom Tov meal with delicacies to enhance the kedusha Succos brings and the conversation was lively. As we were ready to leave it was clear that we all had a really good time. That was for sure. Then there was talk of a problem:
"Oh wow," the hostess sighed. "There are a lot of dishes to bring in!"
Were the dishes "a problem" well … yeah. It was late and I am sure she wasn't looking forward to all the work she would have to get done. But life has problems small, medium, large and extra large and life with problems can be really good.
Rav Sheya Twerski refers to a bracha: 'May you have little worries. 'Worries and problems are part of life and if all one has is little worries one is doing quite well.
The dove that came back in the time of Noach had an olive branch which represented "bitterness". But it was a very good "bitterness". It was called manoach or contentment because it was a bitterness which was earned. One earns a livelihood "by the sweat of one's brow". It often comes with hassles. It comes with the feeling of "a job well done", living in dignity. One can buy what one needs. Many fortunately can buy luxuries.
So let's not be cynical. Having people in our lives who we love and who love us, serving the Aibeshter, and just plain being productive members of society – in short, being alive – is a really good thing. It is the very first thing we thank H-shem for every day. But to enjoy those things you cannot escape it. All those things come with day to day challenges and problems. No way around it. I think you will agree it is well worth the difficulties that come with it. And after all what is the alternative?
So does everyone have some degree of problems or is there a percentage that doesn't? Whatever the case it ain’t ten percent that live problem free!
Not even close.
Let’s not be like the Dor Hamidbar. Let us learn from them. Let us not run from our G-d appointed challenges and all the problems which come with it. They did not get organized in approaching Moshe. It wasn't worth the effort for them. They were so not into a lfe of problems it was a problem for them to to take the effort to live without problems!
Life is problems and challenges, for some much more for some less. But life is well worth all the tzorus. So let’s enjoy and savor every minute of it!
I seem to have this discussion every Purim. A guy who has had a little too much (or perhaps too little after all it is Purim) invariably disagrees with me. I have come to the conclusion that there is a percentage of people – albeit a very small one - who have a life without problems. As people are sampling from trays of delicious stuffed cabage and brown rice and divrei Torah are flying fast and furious, a soft voice declares:
"Chaim you are wrong. No, EVERY ONE has problems."
This person (though I am only giving what might be examples of what a person says) tells me of things like his debts, or a child of his who he and his wife are very concerned about for whatever reason, a sister who is quite older and not yet married... I ask this person if life is worth all the strife. It may take a minute, maybe two, but invariably he agrees it is.
Even when it isn't Purim, if a friend or acquaintance is sincere, I tell them of what I would like to have better in my life. Upon the the conclusion to my list of woes there always seems to be the same reaction:
"Don't think you are the only one. Everyone has problems."
In the history of our galus things change and of course the types of problems change but one thing remains the same. Life always has had its share of hardships and difficulties – or so all the people I speak to would tell me.
For the most part there was an exception to this rule, the Dor Hamidbar. They did not really have problems when you analyze. Think of it. There were clouds all around them. Food literally fell from the sky. No enemies could hurt them. There was no death. There was a miraculous cloud below. No one even got a blister. Laundry? Forget it; no need to bother with it.
Living in Eretz Yisroel in the days of Yehoshua, however, would come with it day to day challenges, to say the least. There would be crops that may or may not grow, hostile neighbors who would hate them, cold, heat. 'No thanks,' the Dor Hamidbar said. So the Dor Hamidbar, which tested Moshe again and again were taken aback by a life of challenges and problems? 'No more life on "easy street?' Thanks but no thanks. We will pass.
What they were doing was running from the life they were expected to have. To conquer Eretz Yisroel was their appointed task, what they were supposed to do, their destiny. A life of challenges in Eretz Yisroel was their calling.
Let’s ponder our various lives with problems: Like those with a child who acts up all to often but from time to time shows an unmistakable sweetnesss; a grandmother advanced in age who you loved going to as a little kid and now cherish each precious moment you have left with her. You the reader at this very moment may have on you mind how to deal with this and this person who is your boss who is making your life difficult. You like your job but you have been told it is important for your emotional health to deal with this boss .A delicate situation. Not fun to be sure. But what is the alternative?
Yomim tovim is stress. Let's be serious; especially Pesach! There are times we want to hang our heads as we are searching behind the refrigerator. But kedushas hechag, the festive meals, extra learning, relaxing of course, seeing loved ones, a sibling child grandchild or great grandchild even, saying the Mah Nishtana as they proudly smile beaming form ear to ear...who could beat it?! And can you beat taking in your fourteen year old asking such mature questions Seder night??
I was once a guest for Succos. It was chilly. The hosts had a terrific time hosting. She remarked how it is always nice to have me and how it is good I always seem to come Succos. we marveled at waterfalls and pondered pictures of succahs from times of the gemarah. The Ushpizin was taught to a beginner who was really intrigued and that made those of us who were knowledgeable of our lofty heritage even more proud and intrigued. We waited for kiddush. There we were, ten people in a tight fitting succah. It was an enjoyable Yom Tov meal with delicacies to enhance the kedusha Succos brings and the conversation was lively. As we were ready to leave it was clear that we all had a really good time. That was for sure. Then there was talk of a problem:
"Oh wow," the hostess sighed. "There are a lot of dishes to bring in!"
Were the dishes "a problem" well … yeah. It was late and I am sure she wasn't looking forward to all the work she would have to get done. But life has problems small, medium, large and extra large and life with problems can be really good.
Rav Sheya Twerski refers to a bracha: 'May you have little worries. 'Worries and problems are part of life and if all one has is little worries one is doing quite well.
The dove that came back in the time of Noach had an olive branch which represented "bitterness". But it was a very good "bitterness". It was called manoach or contentment because it was a bitterness which was earned. One earns a livelihood "by the sweat of one's brow". It often comes with hassles. It comes with the feeling of "a job well done", living in dignity. One can buy what one needs. Many fortunately can buy luxuries.
So let's not be cynical. Having people in our lives who we love and who love us, serving the Aibeshter, and just plain being productive members of society – in short, being alive – is a really good thing. It is the very first thing we thank H-shem for every day. But to enjoy those things you cannot escape it. All those things come with day to day challenges and problems. No way around it. I think you will agree it is well worth the difficulties that come with it. And after all what is the alternative?
So does everyone have some degree of problems or is there a percentage that doesn't? Whatever the case it ain’t ten percent that live problem free!
Not even close.
Let’s not be like the Dor Hamidbar. Let us learn from them. Let us not run from our G-d appointed challenges and all the problems which come with it. They did not get organized in approaching Moshe. It wasn't worth the effort for them. They were so not into a lfe of problems it was a problem for them to to take the effort to live without problems!
Life is problems and challenges, for some much more for some less. But life is well worth all the tzorus. So let’s enjoy and savor every minute of it!
Clarity. Ah Clarity. What a Joy!
Korach
A man named Korach, questioned if Moshe should rule.
In the end he was proven wrong, and looked like a fool.
But when he declared, "Rav lach binei Levi."
Many were confused, and they had to see.
Sure enough. No more doubts. The proof positive arrived.
And in the end Korach and his cronies, were swallowed up alive.
Later in this parsha it was proven that Aharon, was more special than the rest.
But the nation needed proof positive, so they did a test.
Sure enough, almonds grew from Aharon's staff, by a neis.
No more doubts. They were all gone. Such was the case.
Indeed doubts in life can be oppressive. What anxiety and anguish the can put us through!
What is right. What is wrong. Doubts about what path in life to choose.
Whom to trust. Whom to doubt. Of whom to steer clear.
Whom to embrace. Whom to fear.
We may not be on a sublime level to get answers from G-d above
But good advice is to ask a competent rav.
Dear reader...That you know what is true and what is falsehood. To you I wish
For a life of clarity, is a life of bliss!
A man named Korach, questioned if Moshe should rule.
In the end he was proven wrong, and looked like a fool.
But when he declared, "Rav lach binei Levi."
Many were confused, and they had to see.
Sure enough. No more doubts. The proof positive arrived.
And in the end Korach and his cronies, were swallowed up alive.
Later in this parsha it was proven that Aharon, was more special than the rest.
But the nation needed proof positive, so they did a test.
Sure enough, almonds grew from Aharon's staff, by a neis.
No more doubts. They were all gone. Such was the case.
Indeed doubts in life can be oppressive. What anxiety and anguish the can put us through!
What is right. What is wrong. Doubts about what path in life to choose.
Whom to trust. Whom to doubt. Of whom to steer clear.
Whom to embrace. Whom to fear.
We may not be on a sublime level to get answers from G-d above
But good advice is to ask a competent rav.
Dear reader...That you know what is true and what is falsehood. To you I wish
For a life of clarity, is a life of bliss!
In Every Generation
Behaalosecha
From the generation of the midbar, Moshe Rabeinu had incredible demands.
Yehoshua's generation was different, as they would settle the land.
So the sounding of the trumpets mentioned in this weeks parsha, were sounded in a different way.
Two great men, two different eras, two different days.
Just like those two, generations of old.
Each generation differs from the next one, so we are told.
And just like Moshe and Yehoshua, today's Gedolim who lead
Due to their great sensitivity, they succeed...
In delivering a message, tailor-made for us.
And in their insight and wisdom, we can trust.
We are told that in Europe, they could take rebuke so strong.
But today's leaders know that for us, it would be wrong.
Seforim in those days, may have stressed lowliness of self.
Our English seforim, however, stress high self esteem for good mental health.
Unfortunately the generation before us in America, didn't have a great yearning.
B"H, bli ayin hara, today, however, Jews are returning
Now due to the ba'al teshuva sensation.
Their is more of a stress on the depths of gemara, in Jewish education.
May there come a day when there is no need for "trumpets" to inspire, rebuke, or keep people on track.
A day when there will be nothing in deed, or spirituality we lack.
When all generations: From Moshe Rabeinu's time until today, come together.
With one common harmonious blast of a trumpet, now until forever.
From the generation of the midbar, Moshe Rabeinu had incredible demands.
Yehoshua's generation was different, as they would settle the land.
So the sounding of the trumpets mentioned in this weeks parsha, were sounded in a different way.
Two great men, two different eras, two different days.
Just like those two, generations of old.
Each generation differs from the next one, so we are told.
And just like Moshe and Yehoshua, today's Gedolim who lead
Due to their great sensitivity, they succeed...
In delivering a message, tailor-made for us.
And in their insight and wisdom, we can trust.
We are told that in Europe, they could take rebuke so strong.
But today's leaders know that for us, it would be wrong.
Seforim in those days, may have stressed lowliness of self.
Our English seforim, however, stress high self esteem for good mental health.
Unfortunately the generation before us in America, didn't have a great yearning.
B"H, bli ayin hara, today, however, Jews are returning
Now due to the ba'al teshuva sensation.
Their is more of a stress on the depths of gemara, in Jewish education.
May there come a day when there is no need for "trumpets" to inspire, rebuke, or keep people on track.
A day when there will be nothing in deed, or spirituality we lack.
When all generations: From Moshe Rabeinu's time until today, come together.
With one common harmonious blast of a trumpet, now until forever.
H-shem Will Help in Our Battles
Shelach
A young man valiently struggles to study Rashi
"I have no fear,' he says.
'H-shem will help me in my battles.'
A mother patiently struggles to discipline her unruly child.
'I have no fear,' she says.
'H-shem will help me in my battles.'
A bread-winner desperately struggles to support his family.
'I have no fear,' he says.
'H-shem will help me in my battles.'
A widow endlessly struggles to finally accept her loss.
'I have no fear,' she says.
'H-shem will help me in my battles.'
The young man improves in learning. The mother's child matures.
The breadwinner finds it a little easier to make ends meet; and the widow grieves a little less each passing year.
A wayward nation halfheartedly struggles to conquer a land.
"We fear," the people say.
"H-shem will not help us in our battles!"
This week as the boy, the mother, the bread-winner and the widow all learn Parshas Shlach.
Disappointed they all say,
"Why did the people not know, H-shem would help them in their battles??"
A young man valiently struggles to study Rashi
"I have no fear,' he says.
'H-shem will help me in my battles.'
A mother patiently struggles to discipline her unruly child.
'I have no fear,' she says.
'H-shem will help me in my battles.'
A bread-winner desperately struggles to support his family.
'I have no fear,' he says.
'H-shem will help me in my battles.'
A widow endlessly struggles to finally accept her loss.
'I have no fear,' she says.
'H-shem will help me in my battles.'
The young man improves in learning. The mother's child matures.
The breadwinner finds it a little easier to make ends meet; and the widow grieves a little less each passing year.
A wayward nation halfheartedly struggles to conquer a land.
"We fear," the people say.
"H-shem will not help us in our battles!"
This week as the boy, the mother, the bread-winner and the widow all learn Parshas Shlach.
Disappointed they all say,
"Why did the people not know, H-shem would help them in their battles??"
The First Step
Behaalosecha
"Bill" was never exposed to Yiddishkeit, and had all sorts of doubts.
Many of which, he could do without.
'Which book do I turn to? Where do I go?'
He was overwhelmed, and didn't know.
He was frightened by the thought of a lifestyle, strange and new.
All the time, not knowing where to turn what to do.
"Shimi" his co-worker, on the other hand, was exposed to Yiddishkeit since he was small.
A seder in spring, a succah in fall.
'I'd like to be mikareiv Bill, but with what technique?
'Who can advise me? With whom do I speak?'
Bill and Shimi both don't know, which avenues to take.
But for both of them to do nothing, would be a big mistake.
So Shimi takes his first step:
He calls a famous kiruv organization for advice.
"Be patient. Approach with love and respect.
"If you don't know what an answer is, that is o.k.
.
"Because if you need help answering a question Bill asks, we will instruct you what to say."
Bill takes his first step by asking Shimon a question:
"Shimi...? Shimon...? I had a question about Judaism could you clarify?
"I know you wear-I guess you call it a yarmulka-I just never knew why."
Through the weeks Shimi answers many many questions, as much as he is able.
Then proceeds to invite Bill, to his Shabbos table.
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Like Moshe Rabbeinu by the Yam Suf, and in this week's parsha by the Menora made of gold.
Moshe took the "first step", then recieved Divine assistance we are told.
To all those who proceed with ambitious mitzva projects, the advice is clear.
Take that first step. And the main thing is not to fear!
"Bill" was never exposed to Yiddishkeit, and had all sorts of doubts.
Many of which, he could do without.
'Which book do I turn to? Where do I go?'
He was overwhelmed, and didn't know.
He was frightened by the thought of a lifestyle, strange and new.
All the time, not knowing where to turn what to do.
"Shimi" his co-worker, on the other hand, was exposed to Yiddishkeit since he was small.
A seder in spring, a succah in fall.
'I'd like to be mikareiv Bill, but with what technique?
'Who can advise me? With whom do I speak?'
Bill and Shimi both don't know, which avenues to take.
But for both of them to do nothing, would be a big mistake.
So Shimi takes his first step:
He calls a famous kiruv organization for advice.
"Be patient. Approach with love and respect.
"If you don't know what an answer is, that is o.k.
.
"Because if you need help answering a question Bill asks, we will instruct you what to say."
Bill takes his first step by asking Shimon a question:
"Shimi...? Shimon...? I had a question about Judaism could you clarify?
"I know you wear-I guess you call it a yarmulka-I just never knew why."
Through the weeks Shimi answers many many questions, as much as he is able.
Then proceeds to invite Bill, to his Shabbos table.
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Like Moshe Rabbeinu by the Yam Suf, and in this week's parsha by the Menora made of gold.
Moshe took the "first step", then recieved Divine assistance we are told.
To all those who proceed with ambitious mitzva projects, the advice is clear.
Take that first step. And the main thing is not to fear!
Moshe's Children
Bamidbar
A bris, a naming, a toddler on the run.
A bris, a naming, a toddler on the run.
Pushing a stroller, in the mid-day sun.
A sleep-over, where the kids have a blast.
Amazed at how, they grow up so fast.
Booking a hall, hiring a band.
Making a chasuna has so many demands!
At last an ainekal arrives, perhaps a girl or a boy.
Who could imagine, one could know such joy!
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But sadly you are denied, such pleasure.
No plays to attend, no arts and crafts projects to treasure.
No bar-mitzvas, or tuition to pay.
No kids to help with homework, or watch as they play.
No girls to send to seminary in Eretz Yisroel, or closeby here.
Who you can't help but miss, no matter how hard you try.
As loyal to the Aibeshter, you try to remain.
There is one word for it, and it is "pain".
For some it is an ailment, they can endure.
For others it feels like a "disease", that has no cure.
Hovever this parsha offers a consolation, which might bring some relief.
To the pain and suffering, which is beyond belief.
It says "the children of Moshe", but it does not speak of his sons.
Rather it speaks of Aharon's children, which can confuse someone.
Needless to say Aharon's sons were not Moshe's, that can't be true.
Or can it...They are his children, if one takes a different view.
You see Moshe fervently prayed for Aharon's children, and taught them Toras H-shem.
So in a very real sense, he was a father to them.
So to loved ones' children, nephews nieces and friends.
Teach them, continue to love them, and pray for them.
I know this is not a panacea. The pain will still go on in your mind.
But a bit of solace, I pray you might find.
Sunday, April 7, 2013
Accepting "Anochi" and Not Looking Elsewhere. A Good Idea Without Doubt
Yisro
An ode to those who ask whether "man made G-d or G-d made man."
Or wonder if G-d really took us out of Egypt, with an outstretched hand.
Or, maybe they say, "Yes, I know G-d created the world and that is the way it seems.
But how do I know that He intervenes?"
It is fine to view nine of the commandments, as something which you can and cannot do.
To obey or disobey, the choice is up to you.
"Do not steal." "Don't be jealous." "Do not kill."
Again we are obligated to keep them, yet, we have free will.
But, "I am The L-rd thy G-d who took you out of Egypt, where you were once slaves,"
Is not stated as a command, but a statement which to us H-shem gave.
As all of the Jewish people by the above statement, literally saw H-shem's voice.
The lesson is to view belief in H-shem and the Exodus, like it's an obligation not a choice.
The lesson here, which is implied,
Is to accept it as a fact: G-d created the world and took us out of Egypt. This cannot be denied.
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Hinduism, Budhism, the "testament" which is new,
Scientology, Communism, Atheism, just to name a few ...
Because, if you look for answers, in every belief and creed under the sun,
It will take you many lifetimes, when all has been said and done!
But, don't get the idea that Judaism does not allow for those who have questions and are unsure.
However, within the confines of Torah is the place to find the "cure".
It is just fine to have questions. You are not "bad"; it's nothing wrong.
In fact, with hard work looking into Torah sources, your faith will become quite strong.
So, be ready for the challenge; work hard and persevere.
Because it may take some time, until things become clear.
Read books, from your local Jewish bookstore.
Ask and discuss..until your doubts exist no more.
Thousands before you have looked within Torah for the answers which they did find.
And for you, dear reader, I wish the same peace of mind.
An ode to those who ask whether "man made G-d or G-d made man."
Or wonder if G-d really took us out of Egypt, with an outstretched hand.
Or, maybe they say, "Yes, I know G-d created the world and that is the way it seems.
But how do I know that He intervenes?"
It is fine to view nine of the commandments, as something which you can and cannot do.
To obey or disobey, the choice is up to you.
"Do not steal." "Don't be jealous." "Do not kill."
Again we are obligated to keep them, yet, we have free will.
But, "I am The L-rd thy G-d who took you out of Egypt, where you were once slaves,"
Is not stated as a command, but a statement which to us H-shem gave.
As all of the Jewish people by the above statement, literally saw H-shem's voice.
The lesson is to view belief in H-shem and the Exodus, like it's an obligation not a choice.
The lesson here, which is implied,
Is to accept it as a fact: G-d created the world and took us out of Egypt. This cannot be denied.
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Hinduism, Budhism, the "testament" which is new,
Scientology, Communism, Atheism, just to name a few ...
Because, if you look for answers, in every belief and creed under the sun,
It will take you many lifetimes, when all has been said and done!
But, don't get the idea that Judaism does not allow for those who have questions and are unsure.
However, within the confines of Torah is the place to find the "cure".
It is just fine to have questions. You are not "bad"; it's nothing wrong.
In fact, with hard work looking into Torah sources, your faith will become quite strong.
So, be ready for the challenge; work hard and persevere.
Because it may take some time, until things become clear.
Read books, from your local Jewish bookstore.
Ask and discuss..until your doubts exist no more.
Thousands before you have looked within Torah for the answers which they did find.
And for you, dear reader, I wish the same peace of mind.
Honor Your Parents. Don't Covet
Yisro
"A better mom and dad, I was denied.
With the ones I got, I am not satisfied.
They condemned me, for the littlest thing.
To this day, I still feel the sting.
They always lived, beyond their means.
And they didn't encourage me, to pursue my dreams.
They sat by when I was picked on, by my older brother.
(After years of therapy, that is what I discovered.)
Everything I do by them, gets a negative spin.
Is it any wonder, the lousy shape I am in?!
___________________________
But look at that family, over there.
Zero dysfunction. As for me that feels unfair!
I look at another friend. What a sense of security and unconditional love he was given.
As for me...my parents will never be forgiven!"
__________________________
On rare cases parents are legendary; virtually as good at parenting as they possibly can be.
Role models, of the highest degree.
Many try hard, and are basically good.
And though they don't always parent, the way that they should.
That there kid do great, on their personal wish list, there is nothing above.
True they are imperfect, but they are full of love.
Others have many shortcomings, and can be quite selfish at times,
But they do love their kids. That is the bottom line.
But, sadly there are some who are awful, and are the reason that their kids are in such pain.
Sadly in adulthood, their children's scars remain
____________
In this parsha we speak of the two luchos or tablets, which came down from heaven.
And we are told for example, commandment one corresponds with number six, commandment two with number seven.
The command on the left has a connection, with its corresponding command on the right.
And on a concept in Torah, it will shed some light.
For example ... belief in G-d is number one, number six is "Don't kill".
This teaches that when people don't believe in G-d, chalila, people will be murdered at will.
"Honor thy father and mother ..." is command number five.
(Keep this, and you will merit, for a long time to stay alive.)
"Don't be jealous" is commandment number ten.
The lesson is this: If someone has better parents, don't be jealous of them!
The parents you were given, are the parents you were supposed to have - no others.
(And while you are at it, tell that to your sister or brother).
Thinking if only ... if only ... I would have had better parents my life wouldn't be as flawed as this!
Is tempting to think about, but that reality simply doesn't exist!
To not wish for better parents, can be a difficult test.
But do not be jealous of others parents. Honor your parents, and you will be blessed.
Realize that there will always be better parents, that are not your own,
And as for you, your destiny was to grow up in your parents' home.
"A better mom and dad, I was denied.
With the ones I got, I am not satisfied.
They condemned me, for the littlest thing.
To this day, I still feel the sting.
They always lived, beyond their means.
And they didn't encourage me, to pursue my dreams.
They sat by when I was picked on, by my older brother.
(After years of therapy, that is what I discovered.)
Everything I do by them, gets a negative spin.
Is it any wonder, the lousy shape I am in?!
___________________________
But look at that family, over there.
Zero dysfunction. As for me that feels unfair!
I look at another friend. What a sense of security and unconditional love he was given.
As for me...my parents will never be forgiven!"
__________________________
On rare cases parents are legendary; virtually as good at parenting as they possibly can be.
Role models, of the highest degree.
Many try hard, and are basically good.
And though they don't always parent, the way that they should.
That there kid do great, on their personal wish list, there is nothing above.
True they are imperfect, but they are full of love.
Others have many shortcomings, and can be quite selfish at times,
But they do love their kids. That is the bottom line.
But, sadly there are some who are awful, and are the reason that their kids are in such pain.
Sadly in adulthood, their children's scars remain
____________
In this parsha we speak of the two luchos or tablets, which came down from heaven.
And we are told for example, commandment one corresponds with number six, commandment two with number seven.
The command on the left has a connection, with its corresponding command on the right.
And on a concept in Torah, it will shed some light.
For example ... belief in G-d is number one, number six is "Don't kill".
This teaches that when people don't believe in G-d, chalila, people will be murdered at will.
"Honor thy father and mother ..." is command number five.
(Keep this, and you will merit, for a long time to stay alive.)
"Don't be jealous" is commandment number ten.
The lesson is this: If someone has better parents, don't be jealous of them!
The parents you were given, are the parents you were supposed to have - no others.
(And while you are at it, tell that to your sister or brother).
Thinking if only ... if only ... I would have had better parents my life wouldn't be as flawed as this!
Is tempting to think about, but that reality simply doesn't exist!
To not wish for better parents, can be a difficult test.
But do not be jealous of others parents. Honor your parents, and you will be blessed.
Realize that there will always be better parents, that are not your own,
And as for you, your destiny was to grow up in your parents' home.
All Good Things Must Come to an End?
Beshalach
The nevuah at the Yam Suf, that the Jews did receive..
Was so spiritually sublime, that they did not want to leave.
It felt wonderful, plus now the Egyptians would be a thing of the past.
But a prophesy that intense, could not last
To us today a message it does send ...
The intensity of learning Torah full time in kolel, makes one feel like they are in "heaven".
Shtieging over Rishonim and Achronim 24/7
A young woman, sends letters home..
Saying, 'A joy learning Torah like this, I have never known!'
But alas all good things must come to an end..
Their experience of intense learning, usually does not last forever.
And now one must deal, with more "mundane" endeavors.
Like men for instance must make a parnasa, not necessarily your number one thing you'd like to do.
And you don't feel nearly as fulfilled, when the day is through.
The Jews who were in Egypt, we are like them.
It is not always about spiritual "ecstasy". It is about doing the ratzon H-shem.
Of course the sublime experience by the Yam Suf would not last.
And the nevuah and such closeness to H-shem would be a thing of the past.
Later they would be in the midbar, and often fail.
And eventually merit to be farmers, in Eretz Yisroel.
So true being a kolel yungerman, or girl in seminary is a sublime life.
But there is nothing quite like building a bayis ne'eman biyisroel, with a husband or wife!
The nevuah at the Yam Suf, that the Jews did receive..
Was so spiritually sublime, that they did not want to leave.
It felt wonderful, plus now the Egyptians would be a thing of the past.
But a prophesy that intense, could not last
To us today a message it does send ...
The intensity of learning Torah full time in kolel, makes one feel like they are in "heaven".
Shtieging over Rishonim and Achronim 24/7
A young woman, sends letters home..
Saying, 'A joy learning Torah like this, I have never known!'
But alas all good things must come to an end..
Their experience of intense learning, usually does not last forever.
And now one must deal, with more "mundane" endeavors.
Like men for instance must make a parnasa, not necessarily your number one thing you'd like to do.
And you don't feel nearly as fulfilled, when the day is through.
The Jews who were in Egypt, we are like them.
It is not always about spiritual "ecstasy". It is about doing the ratzon H-shem.
Of course the sublime experience by the Yam Suf would not last.
And the nevuah and such closeness to H-shem would be a thing of the past.
Later they would be in the midbar, and often fail.
And eventually merit to be farmers, in Eretz Yisroel.
So true being a kolel yungerman, or girl in seminary is a sublime life.
But there is nothing quite like building a bayis ne'eman biyisroel, with a husband or wife!
Poseik Safeik
Beshalach
Gematrias are brilliant. Gematrias are fun.
Providing a pearl of wisdom, for old and young.
This parsha speaks of the nation of Amaleik, as evil as evil can be.
Amaleik bigematria equals the word safaik, (doubt), a valuable lesson to us indeed.
"Amaleik": "ayin," "mem," "lamed," and "kuf" equals 240 and "safeik": "samech," "peih," and "kuf," does too.
Amaleikim are terrible, but it can be terrible when doubts arise, and one is forced to choose.
Like having to choose the right doctor, surgeon, or medical treatment plan of any kind,
Which can induce fear, guilt, and indecisiveness and even frazzle the mind.
Just how to cure a loved one, just which path to take
'I am so scared. Am I making a mistake?'
Shidduchim can be torturous. Will he or she make a good husband or wife?
'This is the most important, decision of my life!'
'Am I choosing the right profession, or yeshiva for my son?'
Because a school will mold my son's personality, when all is said and done.
Dear reader, there is only one thing which I can advise.
It is from the Torah, and it is very wise.
The words "psak" and "safeik" have the same letters.
(The letters "samech" and "peah" are interchanged, but remain together.)
A poseik (religious authority) will give a psak whether an eiruv is kosher, or on a life and death decision.
With confidence, surety, and precision.
You ask a question of a poseik, who is sometimes young or sometimes older.
Which provides relief, because the safeik is now upon his shoulders!
Yes medical decisions or decisions about dating are anguishing, and "no walk in the park,"
But if you ask your rav (or poseik), you are no longer in the dark.
True, you're probably not going to ask a shailah about by your next simcha what to serve.
But, about the serious doubts, by all means ask, it's a G-d given right which you deserve!
Gematrias are brilliant. Gematrias are fun.
Providing a pearl of wisdom, for old and young.
This parsha speaks of the nation of Amaleik, as evil as evil can be.
Amaleik bigematria equals the word safaik, (doubt), a valuable lesson to us indeed.
"Amaleik": "ayin," "mem," "lamed," and "kuf" equals 240 and "safeik": "samech," "peih," and "kuf," does too.
Amaleikim are terrible, but it can be terrible when doubts arise, and one is forced to choose.
Like having to choose the right doctor, surgeon, or medical treatment plan of any kind,
Which can induce fear, guilt, and indecisiveness and even frazzle the mind.
Just how to cure a loved one, just which path to take
'I am so scared. Am I making a mistake?'
Shidduchim can be torturous. Will he or she make a good husband or wife?
'This is the most important, decision of my life!'
'Am I choosing the right profession, or yeshiva for my son?'
Because a school will mold my son's personality, when all is said and done.
Dear reader, there is only one thing which I can advise.
It is from the Torah, and it is very wise.
The words "psak" and "safeik" have the same letters.
(The letters "samech" and "peah" are interchanged, but remain together.)
A poseik (religious authority) will give a psak whether an eiruv is kosher, or on a life and death decision.
With confidence, surety, and precision.
You ask a question of a poseik, who is sometimes young or sometimes older.
Which provides relief, because the safeik is now upon his shoulders!
Yes medical decisions or decisions about dating are anguishing, and "no walk in the park,"
But if you ask your rav (or poseik), you are no longer in the dark.
True, you're probably not going to ask a shailah about by your next simcha what to serve.
But, about the serious doubts, by all means ask, it's a G-d given right which you deserve!
When Moons Can Not Be Seen
Bo
The moon was created, day four of creation.
And was the first mitzva for us, as a collective nation.
You see, H-shem said to Moshe,"Proclaim the new moon on its precise day."
(Later as now, it would be calculated on the thirtieth or thirty-first day.)
On some nights as one looks up, even when it's a cloudless sky.
The moon is not visible, to the naked eye.
But then a little over two weeks later, precisely on key.
(If it is not cloudy) sure enough a full moon so bright, and easy to see.
Needless to say we know every month, a full moon will return in all its glory.
But that any given galus will end, is an entirely different story!
But H-shem is telling us to realize that, just as the moon waxes and wains.
The exile you are now in, will not remain.
Times like "bitter herbs", change to times more fine.
And sometimes we live as a nation, "which always reclines".
"A dog, a cat, a stick made of wood".
Times in our history can change so quickly, from bad to good!
In the midst of a galus, it is a difficult endeavor.
To internalize, 'This galus will pass, and it will not last forever!"
It is not an easy thing to do.
But it has been done with unfathomable emunah, by a chosen few.
The Chashmonaim, during their darkest days.
Knew they would return to the Beis Hamikdosh, to offer praise.
For they knew we Jews are like the moon, which at times seems like it disappears .
Only to later shine in the night, so bright and clear.
But "Woe to us, this is how it forever will be".
Too often our cry, throughout history.
Author Victor Frankl spoke of people, who in the death camps, thought things would always be the same.
It is hard to imagine, such excruciating pain.
Others were more fortunate, and managed to sing Ani Ma'amin in valiant song.
As they somehow transcended their current situation, and remained strong.
They knew that the most bitter exiles, come to an end.
Maybe that is how, they could transcend.
______________________________
So where are we today?
Quite recently I heard speakers from Arachim, which has been around for several years.
Whose fifteen minute film presentation, could bring one to joyous tears.
They showed some Jews who were anti-religious, so many who simply didn't know.
Beginning to serve H-shem, like their ancestors in this week's parsha Bo.
So maybe this is all an indication that redemption, very soon lies ahead.
(Spoken in prophesies that these days, are often said.)
Maybe we are close to the time, of no more nights when "moons cannot be seen".
Es shivas tzion, hayeinu kicholmim.
A day not unlike a full moon, whose brilliance in the night sky, will forever remain.
The time of Mashiach tzidkeinu bimhaira biyamainu amain!
The moon was created, day four of creation.
And was the first mitzva for us, as a collective nation.
You see, H-shem said to Moshe,"Proclaim the new moon on its precise day."
(Later as now, it would be calculated on the thirtieth or thirty-first day.)
On some nights as one looks up, even when it's a cloudless sky.
The moon is not visible, to the naked eye.
But then a little over two weeks later, precisely on key.
(If it is not cloudy) sure enough a full moon so bright, and easy to see.
Needless to say we know every month, a full moon will return in all its glory.
But that any given galus will end, is an entirely different story!
But H-shem is telling us to realize that, just as the moon waxes and wains.
The exile you are now in, will not remain.
Times like "bitter herbs", change to times more fine.
And sometimes we live as a nation, "which always reclines".
"A dog, a cat, a stick made of wood".
Times in our history can change so quickly, from bad to good!
In the midst of a galus, it is a difficult endeavor.
To internalize, 'This galus will pass, and it will not last forever!"
It is not an easy thing to do.
But it has been done with unfathomable emunah, by a chosen few.
The Chashmonaim, during their darkest days.
Knew they would return to the Beis Hamikdosh, to offer praise.
For they knew we Jews are like the moon, which at times seems like it disappears .
Only to later shine in the night, so bright and clear.
But "Woe to us, this is how it forever will be".
Too often our cry, throughout history.
Author Victor Frankl spoke of people, who in the death camps, thought things would always be the same.
It is hard to imagine, such excruciating pain.
Others were more fortunate, and managed to sing Ani Ma'amin in valiant song.
As they somehow transcended their current situation, and remained strong.
They knew that the most bitter exiles, come to an end.
Maybe that is how, they could transcend.
______________________________
So where are we today?
Quite recently I heard speakers from Arachim, which has been around for several years.
Whose fifteen minute film presentation, could bring one to joyous tears.
They showed some Jews who were anti-religious, so many who simply didn't know.
Beginning to serve H-shem, like their ancestors in this week's parsha Bo.
So maybe this is all an indication that redemption, very soon lies ahead.
(Spoken in prophesies that these days, are often said.)
Maybe we are close to the time, of no more nights when "moons cannot be seen".
Es shivas tzion, hayeinu kicholmim.
A day not unlike a full moon, whose brilliance in the night sky, will forever remain.
The time of Mashiach tzidkeinu bimhaira biyamainu amain!
A World of Perfect Imperfection
Vaeira
Pharaoh was told, that the Jews would be redeemed.
To Pharaoh it didn't make sense, for to him it seemed ...
That if H-shem was All Powerful, Moshe would not have problems when he would speak.
The fact that Moshe Rabbeinu had a speech impediment, to Pharaoh meant (chalilah) that H-shem was weak.
Pharaoh thought that if H-shem could do everything, no one would be handicapped.
The world would be perfect; nothing would be lacked.
______________
Some who see, a world of imperfections and flaws,
Think (chalilah) that The Aibershter's "limitations" are the cause.
This thought has persisted through the ages,
Often by people who think we are descended from primates, that we should live in cages!
_______________
But when we see a desert, where nothing can grow,
The reason why, is not for us to know.
It doesn't (chas vishalom) mean that H-shem does not have the power
To bring rain to quench the desert thirst, at any given hour.
And, if there is a bird that for some reason cannot sing a sweet song,
It does not mean that H-shem (chas vishalom) is not really strong!
When things are imperfect, it may cause us to ask why,
Like, why can't H-shem cure illnesses, which cause people to die.
"H-shem is imperfect," in an hour of desperation some might say,
And feel G-d forbid, that it is useless to pray.
Of course H-shem is all powerful, with a master plan.
But why imperfection exists in this world, it can be hard to understand.
Yes, despite death and all the world's imperfections and pain,
That thought that H-shem is All Powerful in our minds as we daven must always remain
Pharaoh was told, that the Jews would be redeemed.
To Pharaoh it didn't make sense, for to him it seemed ...
That if H-shem was All Powerful, Moshe would not have problems when he would speak.
The fact that Moshe Rabbeinu had a speech impediment, to Pharaoh meant (chalilah) that H-shem was weak.
Pharaoh thought that if H-shem could do everything, no one would be handicapped.
The world would be perfect; nothing would be lacked.
______________
Some who see, a world of imperfections and flaws,
Think (chalilah) that The Aibershter's "limitations" are the cause.
This thought has persisted through the ages,
Often by people who think we are descended from primates, that we should live in cages!
_______________
But when we see a desert, where nothing can grow,
The reason why, is not for us to know.
It doesn't (chas vishalom) mean that H-shem does not have the power
To bring rain to quench the desert thirst, at any given hour.
And, if there is a bird that for some reason cannot sing a sweet song,
It does not mean that H-shem (chas vishalom) is not really strong!
When things are imperfect, it may cause us to ask why,
Like, why can't H-shem cure illnesses, which cause people to die.
"H-shem is imperfect," in an hour of desperation some might say,
And feel G-d forbid, that it is useless to pray.
Of course H-shem is all powerful, with a master plan.
But why imperfection exists in this world, it can be hard to understand.
Yes, despite death and all the world's imperfections and pain,
That thought that H-shem is All Powerful in our minds as we daven must always remain
The "Terrible Curse"
Vaeira
Someone is nasty, and calls you lazy.
You seethe inside, and it drives you crazy.
You scream and shout, something nasty back.
Then he proceeds once more, to attack.
You surmise: "Getting angry back in turn, is the best solution.
And that 'putting him in his place,' will bring a resolution".
So you push harder, and then he pushes back.
A vicious cycle, of pointless attacks.
______________
The Egyptians saw a frog, struck it, and alas there were now two.
But a sensible person, would know what to do.
'Dont get angry, stop striking the frog, because it will only make things worse.'
Alas the Egyptions' anger acted, like a "terrrible curse".
Instead of stopping, they hit it again, and again and again.
One frog became two, then four, then eight then ten.
_________________
Trying to solve conflicts by lashing out, is like pulling at a knot with all your might.
It only gets the knot, more and more tight.
What to do is to say things like..I don't appreciate that, take it easy on me,
or please treat me like you would like to be treated.
To calm "the fire" usually that is all that is needed.
And things are much more likely to be resoved better, if you speak in a calm voice.
We can utilize the more effective method, we do have the choice.
______________
Venting to someone else is great, if to calm down, is the ultimate objective
But the ideal, is to view any given source of anger, in proper perspective
Like if someone in a checkout line is rude, or has a nasty comment to say
Think 'Who cares. It is a reflection on him not me. He must be having a bad day.'
Because anger is like "gehenom", ruling the roost.
It is terribly unhealthy, and self abuse.
Blood pressure rises, enzymes take over, and get stronger and stronger.
Dear reader if you control your anger, you will live longer!
(Some reasearch says sugar in excess, is something to avoid.
To help one be less irritable angry, enraged and annoyed).
No one said, it would be easy, to control.
And learning to control one's anger, is a lifetime goal.
So work hard at controlling your anger, and try to do your best.
And you will reap benefits in this world, not only in the next!
Someone is nasty, and calls you lazy.
You seethe inside, and it drives you crazy.
You scream and shout, something nasty back.
Then he proceeds once more, to attack.
You surmise: "Getting angry back in turn, is the best solution.
And that 'putting him in his place,' will bring a resolution".
So you push harder, and then he pushes back.
A vicious cycle, of pointless attacks.
______________
The Egyptians saw a frog, struck it, and alas there were now two.
But a sensible person, would know what to do.
'Dont get angry, stop striking the frog, because it will only make things worse.'
Alas the Egyptions' anger acted, like a "terrrible curse".
Instead of stopping, they hit it again, and again and again.
One frog became two, then four, then eight then ten.
_________________
Trying to solve conflicts by lashing out, is like pulling at a knot with all your might.
It only gets the knot, more and more tight.
What to do is to say things like..I don't appreciate that, take it easy on me,
or please treat me like you would like to be treated.
To calm "the fire" usually that is all that is needed.
And things are much more likely to be resoved better, if you speak in a calm voice.
We can utilize the more effective method, we do have the choice.
______________
Venting to someone else is great, if to calm down, is the ultimate objective
But the ideal, is to view any given source of anger, in proper perspective
Like if someone in a checkout line is rude, or has a nasty comment to say
Think 'Who cares. It is a reflection on him not me. He must be having a bad day.'
Because anger is like "gehenom", ruling the roost.
It is terribly unhealthy, and self abuse.
Blood pressure rises, enzymes take over, and get stronger and stronger.
Dear reader if you control your anger, you will live longer!
(Some reasearch says sugar in excess, is something to avoid.
To help one be less irritable angry, enraged and annoyed).
No one said, it would be easy, to control.
And learning to control one's anger, is a lifetime goal.
So work hard at controlling your anger, and try to do your best.
And you will reap benefits in this world, not only in the next!
The "Final Date"
Shemos
I chose exactly, what I should wear.
Not too conservative, but not too much flair.
I tried to look pleasant, and not uptight.
Praying for once, this would turn out right.
Be witty and interesting, don't say something wrong.
Don't come on too weak, don't come on too strong.
We went out to a restaurant, and before long I discovered.
This date was turning out, like a lot of others.
Well I guess the date, went "OK".
We found we had some things in common, a few things to say.
Another date recorded, in my date history.
Just what went wrong, is a mystery.
Shidduch dating isn't always, a walk in the park.
Sometimes it is more like banging into furniture, in the dark.
My shadchan once again: "I could set you up again ... who knows maybe this will be the one ... and then again what is ... I mean worst comes to worst....
"Talk to them once before the date, first things first."
So we e-mailed, then talked, then set up the date.
I can't show up to early, mustn't show up too late.
No go again! I put my head, on my good friend's shoulder.
The one in whom I always confide, that I'm getting older.
___________
But don't get stuck in the here and now, never get depressed.
Even though the way things look to you now, your life seems like a mess.
Have faith that you will find that special someone, for whom you pray.
Even though it may take a lot of dating, to get to that day.
And one day while riding, on the train.
Or while looking out, into a cool misty rain.
Or on that one day when you're out with someone, and you find.
'He or she is not really right for me, but we had a nice time!'
At that time you will keep your eye - not on a date that didn't work out - but on that "final date".
Who will be your partner through life, and your soul mate.
_______________________
There was a man named Moshe, Rabbeinu who was on a journey to save his nation.
The journey, the purpose, of creation.
There would be obstacles, setbacks, and things wouldn't happen over night.
But Moshe knew eventually, things would turn out right.
Moshe attitude was he must focus on Yetzias Mitzrayim, keeping his "eye on the prize".
Moshe's attitude is also a great one for shidduch dating, one must realize.
Whether it is your cousin, friend from seminary, or the guy who used to learn with your brother.
May all us singles meet their zivug, one with the other.
I chose exactly, what I should wear.
Not too conservative, but not too much flair.
I tried to look pleasant, and not uptight.
Praying for once, this would turn out right.
Be witty and interesting, don't say something wrong.
Don't come on too weak, don't come on too strong.
We went out to a restaurant, and before long I discovered.
This date was turning out, like a lot of others.
Well I guess the date, went "OK".
We found we had some things in common, a few things to say.
Another date recorded, in my date history.
Just what went wrong, is a mystery.
Shidduch dating isn't always, a walk in the park.
Sometimes it is more like banging into furniture, in the dark.
My shadchan once again: "I could set you up again ... who knows maybe this will be the one ... and then again what is ... I mean worst comes to worst....
"Talk to them once before the date, first things first."
So we e-mailed, then talked, then set up the date.
I can't show up to early, mustn't show up too late.
No go again! I put my head, on my good friend's shoulder.
The one in whom I always confide, that I'm getting older.
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But don't get stuck in the here and now, never get depressed.
Even though the way things look to you now, your life seems like a mess.
Have faith that you will find that special someone, for whom you pray.
Even though it may take a lot of dating, to get to that day.
And one day while riding, on the train.
Or while looking out, into a cool misty rain.
Or on that one day when you're out with someone, and you find.
'He or she is not really right for me, but we had a nice time!'
At that time you will keep your eye - not on a date that didn't work out - but on that "final date".
Who will be your partner through life, and your soul mate.
_______________________
There was a man named Moshe, Rabbeinu who was on a journey to save his nation.
The journey, the purpose, of creation.
There would be obstacles, setbacks, and things wouldn't happen over night.
But Moshe knew eventually, things would turn out right.
Moshe attitude was he must focus on Yetzias Mitzrayim, keeping his "eye on the prize".
Moshe's attitude is also a great one for shidduch dating, one must realize.
Whether it is your cousin, friend from seminary, or the guy who used to learn with your brother.
May all us singles meet their zivug, one with the other.
Here's to the Good Old Days and Messianic Days
Vayikra
Today kids are exposed, to all sorts of things.
That living in the twenty-first century, brings.
Like the decadence of papers, sold in convenience stores.
Which don't even bother much, with real news anymore.
Kids innocently frolicking, outside on the grass
More and more, is becoming a thing of the past.
It has gotten so bad, that today our history "has turned a page".
(And kids do need to learn things, which defy their age).
So as time goes by, kids are becoming more jaded.
As more so, childhood innocence has faded.
______________________________
But in times, of hundreds of years ago.
All those "adult" things, Yiddishe kinder didn't know.
The world sheltered kids, from adult deception, evil and greed.
Because after all, that information a child didn't need.
Yes they were ignorant of adult vices and immorality. That was for sure.
So it didn't become part of them; They remained pure.
That's why when rebbes began teaching these souls, so innocent and mild.
They started with Sefer Vayikra. It was the first thing taught to a Jewish child.
Bringing up a sacrifice, in order to get closer to H-shem:
A concept as beautiful, and innocent as them.
Thus it came naturally, and perhaps by learning Vayikra they would stay innocent just a bit longer.
And in later years, when they would need to take on impurity, they would be stronger.
And when we actually will bring korbanos bikarov mamish just you wait and see.
Innocent and pure: That is the way kids will always be!
Today kids are exposed, to all sorts of things.
That living in the twenty-first century, brings.
Like the decadence of papers, sold in convenience stores.
Which don't even bother much, with real news anymore.
Kids innocently frolicking, outside on the grass
More and more, is becoming a thing of the past.
It has gotten so bad, that today our history "has turned a page".
(And kids do need to learn things, which defy their age).
So as time goes by, kids are becoming more jaded.
As more so, childhood innocence has faded.
______________________________
But in times, of hundreds of years ago.
All those "adult" things, Yiddishe kinder didn't know.
The world sheltered kids, from adult deception, evil and greed.
Because after all, that information a child didn't need.
Yes they were ignorant of adult vices and immorality. That was for sure.
So it didn't become part of them; They remained pure.
That's why when rebbes began teaching these souls, so innocent and mild.
They started with Sefer Vayikra. It was the first thing taught to a Jewish child.
Bringing up a sacrifice, in order to get closer to H-shem:
A concept as beautiful, and innocent as them.
Thus it came naturally, and perhaps by learning Vayikra they would stay innocent just a bit longer.
And in later years, when they would need to take on impurity, they would be stronger.
And when we actually will bring korbanos bikarov mamish just you wait and see.
Innocent and pure: That is the way kids will always be!
Return. But How?
Shabbos Hagadol
On erev Pesach we dismiss our sins (chametz), in one line.
"Kol chamira ... k'afra di'ara," that alone is just fine.
There is a minhag to do teshuva before the Seder. And there are those who do.
However, they spend on it, only a minute or two.
As far as chametz, it is a metaphor, for things done wrong.
And while by Yom Kippur by al chait, we spend longer and break out in somber song...
The Jews in Egypt on their door, were required to put a sign..
But as for excessive teshuva, this was not the time.
They were steeped in idol worship, and were at a level that was low.
So to get involved then in excessive soul searching, that was not the way to go.
By Korban Pesach, viduy (confession) and semicha (leaning on the animal), is not performed.
Unlike the semicha, and viduy, which by other karbanos is the norm.
When we commemorate Korban Pesach with Afikoman, i.e. "going from slaves to being free."
We hurry. And that is the way it ought to be.
Teshuva is confusing. There is no one path one way.
What to confess-or not confess-what to say what not to say.
This Sefiras Ha'omer, whatever confessing you may need to do.
I wish you hatzlacha, in picking the path which is right for you!
On erev Pesach we dismiss our sins (chametz), in one line.
"Kol chamira ... k'afra di'ara," that alone is just fine.
There is a minhag to do teshuva before the Seder. And there are those who do.
However, they spend on it, only a minute or two.
As far as chametz, it is a metaphor, for things done wrong.
And while by Yom Kippur by al chait, we spend longer and break out in somber song...
The Jews in Egypt on their door, were required to put a sign..
But as for excessive teshuva, this was not the time.
They were steeped in idol worship, and were at a level that was low.
So to get involved then in excessive soul searching, that was not the way to go.
By Korban Pesach, viduy (confession) and semicha (leaning on the animal), is not performed.
Unlike the semicha, and viduy, which by other karbanos is the norm.
When we commemorate Korban Pesach with Afikoman, i.e. "going from slaves to being free."
We hurry. And that is the way it ought to be.
Teshuva is confusing. There is no one path one way.
What to confess-or not confess-what to say what not to say.
This Sefiras Ha'omer, whatever confessing you may need to do.
I wish you hatzlacha, in picking the path which is right for you!
Uh..Suri...? There Is Something I Just Have to Talk to You About
Acharei Mos - Kedoshim
"Oh Devorah, how well your son behaves."
Suri goes on and on, as she raves.
"But Basie, what's the story with your son?
He seems to start up, with everyone!
Well I guess keeping your cool while he acts up, is your test.
But don't worry Basie. In our book you're the best"
Basie leaves with a sour feeling.
'It seems with hurtful comments, I am always dealing.
People make comments and I stand there, not knowing what to say.
Then hurt and upset, is how I stay.
Oh but what am I saying? Suri is my friend.
I should put all this resentment, to an end.
Why should I feel upset, and hold on to how I feel?
It was an innocent comment. No big deal!
On second thought..who am I kidding? I feel insulted and betrayed.
I've got to face it. I do feel hurt by the comments Suri made.'
__________________________
Frustrated, Basie goes to her rav, Rav Smith to see what to do.
After the two of them talk for a while, he concludes.
"Basie I can tell that comment about your son always misbehaving, hurt you inside.
You are the sensitive type. So your feelings mustn't be denied.
For some it is a mitzva to ignore insults; because for them they are no big deal.
But let's face it. That is not the way that you feel.
Right now your friendship with Suri is blemished. That's not right.
So why not speak to her, and why not do that tonight."
That afternoon Basie quivers, as she practices in the mirror.
As that Rav Smith is right, it becomes clearer and clearer.
________________
The phone rings: "Suri? This is Basie. Um I think there is something we must work through."
"Oh Basie How've you been? It is great hearing from you!
Did you hear? Devorah's daughter became a kallah yesterday."
"Oh wow that's great!.. But wait ...There is something I have got to say."
"Well I have got to go soon," Suri says. "Will it take long?
Basie..Is something wrong?"
"Actually yes. I was hurt by the comment you made about my son. It made me upset."
"About your son? Refresh my memory. I seem to forget."
Basie proceeds to tell over the whole story.
"Oh I feel terrible," Suri exclaims. "Oh Basie I am so sorry!"
Basie now feels no more anger, resentment or hate.
As tomorrow the two of them have lunch, and everything goes great.
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This parsha says if you hate in your heart speak up.(And like Basie prepare what you are going to say.)
With any luck you and your friend will become even closer, and all bitterness will melt away!
"Oh Devorah, how well your son behaves."
Suri goes on and on, as she raves.
"But Basie, what's the story with your son?
He seems to start up, with everyone!
Well I guess keeping your cool while he acts up, is your test.
But don't worry Basie. In our book you're the best"
Basie leaves with a sour feeling.
'It seems with hurtful comments, I am always dealing.
People make comments and I stand there, not knowing what to say.
Then hurt and upset, is how I stay.
Oh but what am I saying? Suri is my friend.
I should put all this resentment, to an end.
Why should I feel upset, and hold on to how I feel?
It was an innocent comment. No big deal!
On second thought..who am I kidding? I feel insulted and betrayed.
I've got to face it. I do feel hurt by the comments Suri made.'
__________________________
Frustrated, Basie goes to her rav, Rav Smith to see what to do.
After the two of them talk for a while, he concludes.
"Basie I can tell that comment about your son always misbehaving, hurt you inside.
You are the sensitive type. So your feelings mustn't be denied.
For some it is a mitzva to ignore insults; because for them they are no big deal.
But let's face it. That is not the way that you feel.
Right now your friendship with Suri is blemished. That's not right.
So why not speak to her, and why not do that tonight."
That afternoon Basie quivers, as she practices in the mirror.
As that Rav Smith is right, it becomes clearer and clearer.
________________
The phone rings: "Suri? This is Basie. Um I think there is something we must work through."
"Oh Basie How've you been? It is great hearing from you!
Did you hear? Devorah's daughter became a kallah yesterday."
"Oh wow that's great!.. But wait ...There is something I have got to say."
"Well I have got to go soon," Suri says. "Will it take long?
Basie..Is something wrong?"
"Actually yes. I was hurt by the comment you made about my son. It made me upset."
"About your son? Refresh my memory. I seem to forget."
Basie proceeds to tell over the whole story.
"Oh I feel terrible," Suri exclaims. "Oh Basie I am so sorry!"
Basie now feels no more anger, resentment or hate.
As tomorrow the two of them have lunch, and everything goes great.
_______________
This parsha says if you hate in your heart speak up.(And like Basie prepare what you are going to say.)
With any luck you and your friend will become even closer, and all bitterness will melt away!
Emor
Emor
To your dear friend, you do harm.
And I accept you back, with open arms.
You don't find, time to learn.
And My blessing and kindness, is what you earn.
You don't confide in Me, when you pray.
It's a case of mere words, which you say.
But when you daven, at any given hour.
I consider your words, to have great power.
_____________
Aibeshter you are able to punish, measure for measure.
You can erase in a mere moment, a rich man's treasure.
But as for me, I am so much more in awe.
Of how you treat us all, with so many flaws.
We sin and sin, and don't even give it a second glance.
And You proceed to bestow upon us earth's bounty, and chance after chance.
Knowing of Your infinite greatness, one would think You would punish instantly those who sin.
But You rarely act, according to midas hadin.
True it is one thing to consider how strong and powerful You are and it boggles the mind
But even more awesome is to behold how You are so forgiving and kind.
This week's parsha speaks of "Yom Tekiah" how to be merciful to sinners He feels the need.
Considering H-shem's Infinite Greatness what an awesome concept indeed!
To your dear friend, you do harm.
And I accept you back, with open arms.
You don't find, time to learn.
And My blessing and kindness, is what you earn.
You don't confide in Me, when you pray.
It's a case of mere words, which you say.
But when you daven, at any given hour.
I consider your words, to have great power.
_____________
Aibeshter you are able to punish, measure for measure.
You can erase in a mere moment, a rich man's treasure.
But as for me, I am so much more in awe.
Of how you treat us all, with so many flaws.
We sin and sin, and don't even give it a second glance.
And You proceed to bestow upon us earth's bounty, and chance after chance.
Knowing of Your infinite greatness, one would think You would punish instantly those who sin.
But You rarely act, according to midas hadin.
True it is one thing to consider how strong and powerful You are and it boggles the mind
But even more awesome is to behold how You are so forgiving and kind.
This week's parsha speaks of "Yom Tekiah" how to be merciful to sinners He feels the need.
Considering H-shem's Infinite Greatness what an awesome concept indeed!
Behar-Bechukosai
The bell rings. Reuven answers the door.
He sees a man there, and says no more.
He beholds a weathered face, yet with twinkling eyes.
A man he does not recognize.
"Can you help me? My child is ill.
He has had several operations; He needs more still.
My other son had a nervous breakdown, and he is not doing well.
They told me he is not making progress, as far as they could tell."
Reuven reaches for his wallet, without hesitation.
As he gives the man, a generous donation.
Then he proceeds to speak to the man, for a short while.
Amazed, how he is even able to smile.
Reuven asks, as he cannot understand.
How he stays so positive, with the situation at hand.
He laughs and says, "This is decreed for me what can I do?
It is bitachon which every day sees me through."
As the man goes on, and begins to explain.
His astonishment Reuven can barely contain.
"H-shem gives me, what He knows for me is the best.
To accept it with love ...That is my test!"
Reuven goes back up his steps ashamed.
He thinks: 'When something even a little bad happens to me all I do is complain!
How often when I actually do sacrifice and do what's right.
I feel I'll lose out, and get all uptight.'
This weeks Haftorah speaks of bitachon. And in bitachon there are levels.
To have even a small amount of bitachon is wonderful, and reason to revel.
The next time Reuven was stuck in unexpected traffic, or on an unusually slow train.
He learned from his encounter with the man, and did not complain.
And when a small appliance for positively absolutely, no good reason broke down.
He said, 'This is what is the best for me,' and did not frown.
And when as if by "magic" out of nowhere he found a parking place when he was in a hurry.
'Of course H-shem desires to bestow good upon us,' he thought. 'So why should I worry?'
True unlike the man collecting, Reuven didn't have bitachon like mountains of diamonds and gold.
But any amount of bitachon is valuable. So we are told.
The bell rings. Reuven answers the door.
He sees a man there, and says no more.
He beholds a weathered face, yet with twinkling eyes.
A man he does not recognize.
"Can you help me? My child is ill.
He has had several operations; He needs more still.
My other son had a nervous breakdown, and he is not doing well.
They told me he is not making progress, as far as they could tell."
Reuven reaches for his wallet, without hesitation.
As he gives the man, a generous donation.
Then he proceeds to speak to the man, for a short while.
Amazed, how he is even able to smile.
Reuven asks, as he cannot understand.
How he stays so positive, with the situation at hand.
He laughs and says, "This is decreed for me what can I do?
It is bitachon which every day sees me through."
As the man goes on, and begins to explain.
His astonishment Reuven can barely contain.
"H-shem gives me, what He knows for me is the best.
To accept it with love ...That is my test!"
Reuven goes back up his steps ashamed.
He thinks: 'When something even a little bad happens to me all I do is complain!
How often when I actually do sacrifice and do what's right.
I feel I'll lose out, and get all uptight.'
This weeks Haftorah speaks of bitachon. And in bitachon there are levels.
To have even a small amount of bitachon is wonderful, and reason to revel.
The next time Reuven was stuck in unexpected traffic, or on an unusually slow train.
He learned from his encounter with the man, and did not complain.
And when a small appliance for positively absolutely, no good reason broke down.
He said, 'This is what is the best for me,' and did not frown.
And when as if by "magic" out of nowhere he found a parking place when he was in a hurry.
'Of course H-shem desires to bestow good upon us,' he thought. 'So why should I worry?'
True unlike the man collecting, Reuven didn't have bitachon like mountains of diamonds and gold.
But any amount of bitachon is valuable. So we are told.
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