Uh..Suri...? There Is Something I Just Have to Talk to You About

Acharei Mos - Kedoshim

"Oh Devorah, how well your son behaves."
Suri goes on and on, as she raves.

"But Basie, what's the story with your son?
He seems to start up, with everyone!

Well I guess keeping your cool while he acts up, is your test.
But don't worry Basie. In our book you're the best"

Basie leaves with a sour feeling.
'It seems with hurtful comments, I am always dealing.

People make comments and I stand there, not knowing what to say.
Then hurt and upset, is how I stay.

Oh but what am I saying? Suri is my friend.
I should put all this resentment, to an end.

Why should I feel upset, and hold on to how I feel?
It was an innocent comment. No big deal!

On second thought..who am I kidding? I feel insulted and betrayed.
I've got to face it. I do feel hurt by the comments Suri made.'
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Frustrated, Basie goes to her rav, Rav Smith to see what to do.
After the two of them talk for a while, he concludes.

"Basie I can tell that comment about your son always misbehaving, hurt you inside.
You are the sensitive type. So your feelings mustn't be denied.

For some it is a mitzva to ignore insults; because for them they are no big deal.
But let's face it. That is not the way that you feel.

Right now your friendship with Suri is blemished. That's not right.
So why not speak to her, and why not do that tonight."

That afternoon Basie quivers, as she practices in the mirror.
As that Rav Smith is right, it becomes clearer and clearer.  
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The phone rings: "Suri? This is Basie. Um I think there is something we must work through."
"Oh Basie How've you been? It is great hearing from you!

Did you hear? Devorah's daughter became a kallah yesterday."
"Oh wow that's great!.. But wait ...There is something I have got to say."

"Well I have got to go soon," Suri says. "Will it take long?
Basie..Is something wrong?"

"Actually yes. I was hurt by the comment you made about my son. It made me upset."
"About your son? Refresh my memory. I seem to forget."

Basie proceeds to tell over the whole story.
"Oh I feel terrible," Suri exclaims. "Oh Basie I am so sorry!"

Basie now feels no more anger, resentment or hate.
As tomorrow the two of them have lunch, and everything goes great.
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This parsha says if you hate in your heart speak up.(And like Basie prepare what you are going to say.)
With any luck you and your friend will become even closer, and all bitterness will melt away!